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3 Things I Let Go Of To Successfully Lose Weight

3 Things I Let Go Of To Successfully Lose Weight

Over the past two years, I’ve learned that weight losschange3 is not only about losing weight, but also about losing the preconceived notions, negative thoughts, and self-defeatist attitude that got me into my unhealthy predicament in the first place.

After a lot of soul searching, it became clear that I not only needed to change my diet and lifestyle but also the negative stories and beliefs that were essentially untrue and no longer serving me. I realized I had to create a mindset that fostered an environment for positive growth and success because hanging onto my unproductive self-defeating thoughts were overwhelming me, deflating my self-confidence, diminishing my self-esteem, taking away my motivation and zapping my energy.

Any one of these effects on their own was counterproductive to losing weight and achieving vibrant health, but combined, they were a recipe for repeated weight loss failures and compromised physical, mental, and emotional health.

Here are the 3 things I let go of to move forward and get positive lasting results:

1. The Shame of Past Failures. I slowly realized I am a product of my past experiences but I don’t have to be a prisoner of them and I can use them, (especially the challenging ones), as teaching tools. I now try to figure out why these events happened and what I was meant to learn from them.

I also learned not to waste time or energy wallowing in the past and rehashing old wounds but to live in the here and now. There is no way one can enjoy the beauty of the present while being suffocated by the past.

2. Running from Problems that Needed to be Fixed. For decades, I had been suppressing my pain and dissatisfaction with myself and my life with food. At the Let go of pasttime I didn’t realize that essentially all I was really doing was running and hiding from problems that needed to be addressed and healed. When I consciously made the decision to take charge of my health and my life, everything started to fall into place. It didn’t happen in a day or even a week but every few months there were noticeable improvements in all areas of my life that have added up to dramatic results, and an amazing journey of self-discovery and personal growth over the past couple of years.

3. Making Excuses Instead of Decisions. I remember always feeling like I was a victim of my circumstances; too busy, not enough time or money, lack of support or approval from others, not enough energy, bad genes…etc! I think that’s because I was always focusing on the quick fix or the big results and I was continually overwhelmed. I finally realized successful weight loss and healthy living were about making a long-term plan with a series of realistic and attainable goals and creating a blueprint on how to achieve them. Now I don’t even focus on the end result but take small consistent steps and enjoy the journey.


If you’ve been trying to lose weight and get healthy for years or even decades, it’s time to start questioning your negative thoughts and beliefs and evaluating how your mindset is contributing to your overall health and wellness. Negative self-talk and a self-defeatist attitude are counterproductive to losing weight and getting healthy because they create chronic internal stress which will cause you to reach for unhealthy “comfort” foods to calm your nerves or suppress your uncomfortable feelings.

So the next time a negative or self-defeating thought enters your mind, pause and ask yourself these 3 questions:
1. Is this negative thought serving my best interests?
2. Is this negative thought enhancing my physical, mental, and emotional well-being?
3. Is this negative thought getting me closer to my goals?

If the answer is “no” then these destructive thoughts are no longer serving you, and you need to release them or reframe them into productive empowering thoughts that will generate success-oriented actions and create positive lasting results.

I firmly believe that weight loss starts with what you think and not what you eat, and that weight control problems are due, at least in part, to faulty thinking, perceptions and assumptions we have about ourselves and our lives. If we passively accept our negative self-talk without questioning and challenging it, we are severely undermining our chances of ever getting our weight under control and our health in order.

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